Divorce is the best answer to a couple’s marital strife

Research indicates that between 40-50% of married couples get divorced in the United States. Divorce may seem common today, but perhaps not as common as was once thought, as the divorce rate in America is actually slightly less than it once was.  But with almost half of all married couples still getting a divorce, it begs the question: When the going gets tough, should couples cut their losses and divorce, or should they push through and remain a family unit?

Below are three arguments for and against divorce.

beg questions 질문하게 하다 cut a loss (일찌감치 손을 떼어)  더 큰 이상의 피해를 막다 push through 헤쳐나가다 

 

Three reasons why divorce is the answer

 

Longer life expectancies make lifetime monogamy unrealistic

Early marriages, often arranged to form strategic alliances between families, arose in an era when life expectancies were significantly shorter than they are today. Now that people are living into their eighties, nineties and beyond, staying together “till death do us part” may be unrealistic. Humans are the only animals to practice monogamy as a lifestyle. And as the divorce rate currently stands between 40-50%, one might begin to wonder whether humans were even made to be monogamous. The possibility that humans will be naturally compelled to explore the world and seek self-fulfillment just might make monogamy a pipe dream. If a couple is struggling to live together as a unit or remain monogamous, they should be able to part ways instead of suffering alongside each other for decades to come.

life expectancy 기대 수명  lifetime 평생의 monogamy 일부일처 pipe dream 몽상 alongside ~와 함께

 

Divorce frees you from harm and incompatibility

Marriage is an institution meant to promote and safeguard relationships. However, if those relationships turn sour – whether due to infidelity, physical or emotional abuse, or incompatibility, divorce is the channel that can help free affected partners from their suffering. It can consequently prevent the development of physical, emotional or mental health consequences. Divorce also enables incompatible partners to go their separate ways. Armed with the knowledge and experience acquired during their first marriages, divorcees have a better perspective of what they want and need in a new partner. If harnessed, this know-how can serve divorcees and help them find more compatible partners the second time around.

turn sour 잘못되다 infidelity 부정, 배신 if harnessed 잘 이용한다면 (harness 이용하다, 활용하다)

 

It can be healthier for your children’s mental stability

While research evidences that divorce does have an impact on children, it fails to take into account the permanent emotional damage children suffer when they are forced to live under the same roof as parents who can’t get along. A good divorce can be better than a bad marriage for the children involved. This is because it provides kids with a calmer emotional baseline, educating them on compromise and helping them place personal happiness as a life priority.

compromise 타협 priority 우선순위

 

Three reasons why divorce is not the answer

 

Divorce promotes a casual attitude towards marriage

Marriage is more than a relationship between two people. It is a social institution, governed by legal, moral and community obligations. During wedding ceremonies, couples pledge to remain together, “as long as we both shall live.”  Divorce devalues the meaning of these vows – and consequently of the entire institution of marriage. This devaluation promotes an overall casual attitude towards marriage, leading people to enter marriages lightly and without due consideration; they know they can always obtain a divorce if the marriage doesn’t work out instead of fighting for the survival of the relationship.

devalue 평가절하하다

 

It creates financial hardship

Divorce almost always hurts the finances of all parties involved. Marriage researchers have found that more than a 30% increase in income is required to maintain the same standard of living divorced couples had prior to the dissolution of their marriage. Fathers must pay child support and, in some cases, alimony as well. Nearly 55% of divorced mothers do not receive the full child support payments they are owed. This leads 20% of mothers to fall into poverty, as they must also cut back on work hours to provide after school care for their children. When there is only a single parent left with the children at a given time, it can be difficult for that parent to hold a full-time job and earn a decent living.

dissolution 파경, 해산 prior to 이전에

 

Divorce is lonely

Regardless of the circumstances, divorce may cause a degree of emotional pain and detachment from a way of life you have grown accustomed to. Even if you have children with you, it is not the same as being with an adult partner. An Australian study found that one year after divorce, 48% of still-single men reported feeling lonely. The loneliness that tends to accompany the dissolution of one’s marriage is intense and may often feel like it will never end. It is also associated with worse physical and mental health, more so for men than women, who are more likely to develop related suicidality after a separation. What’s more, children of divorce often feel lonely and devastated by the breakup of their families, a fact any devoted parent must consider.

detach 분리하다 

 

The Bottom Line: Divorce can be the answer unhappy couples seek, but it can also cause much strain and life dissatisfaction. Whether it is the answer to a couple’s marital strife is a deeply personal matter and should be weighed on an individual basis. How do you feel about divorce?

strain 부담, 압박, 중압 weigh 평가되다, 비교하다 strife 갈등, 블화